Can I spoil my baby?

well, the answer is a big definite NO. Do not worry, you simply just can’t spoil your newborn baby. I think it is a great news.

I know I’ve touched this topic before, but I thought it’d make sense to write a whole new one about it. So, as I’ve mentioned before all your little baby need is your pure love and care. It has different ways to show your love. One way is to be there when s/he needs you.

First of all, do not let him/her cry!
I think this is really important. Yes, babies cry, this is a fact. They cry because they can’t explain their needs in any other ways yet. BUT if you can adjust your mind to the fact that crying is just the language s/he can use at this very moment to communicate, to let you know her/him needs, than your life become much easier.

All you can do against crying is to lessen the minutes/hours s/he does it. Sooner or later you’ll be able to differentiate and you’ll understand immediately what s/he wants. It is easier if you breastfeed, because giving him/her the breast it feeds him/her as well as calms her down, so even if you didn’t really know what was the problem, it can be sorted easily.  Breastfeeding is much more then nourishing, it is actually building his/her immune system, making it stronger and stronger and in this way you also show your love by giving her/him a good start for a healthy life.  You can feed your baby with formula via a bottle as well, but then when you prepare that bottle of food please put lot’s of love into it as well. And make sure you hold her/him in your arms while feeding so, s/he gets the closeness part as well. The only thing you can’t do with the bottle is the immunsystem boost, but hopefully s/he will get it somehow.

Most of the time, you as a newborn mother feel that you just lost the control of your life. That sweet little baby just wants to be on you, that is the only thing what calms her/him down and you feel it is too much, you have million other things to do.

First of all, you need to get used to the fact, that, yes, one chapter of your live is over. You have entered to a totally new one, which you don’t know anything about it. You have no experience in it yet. It is the same as when you first fell in love. You didn’t even know how did it happen, what to do with it and so on…. You just need to accept it. The sooner the better, so start to work on it now so, the next thing you can do if your baby just want to hang out with you/on you all the time please enjoy it!!!! Think a bit forward: this cute tiny little baby will grow extremely quickly. You can’t even imagine now s/he will be 20 years old so soon, and h/she doesn’t want you to hold him/her in your arms anymore, so please enjoy the time what she gives you, hold her in your arms as much as you can, kiss her as much as you want, let her sleep on you or let her awake on you, play with you while s/he is on you, anyhow just keep her/him in your arms.

Once you’ve gotten to this stage in your mind you’ll realize, you need support. You need something to give an ease on your back, and arms and shoulder and hip  than kangapouch comes into it’s place.

So, go and pick up your soft baby carrier, get it on you and  put your little baby into it. In this way you can have a calm, smiling, content baby on you and you can still go on with your life. While your baby is on you it is an other way to express your love. In this way you proof you are there when s/he needs you, because you will be close enough to react to the first signs of her/him needs, so s/he doesn’t need to cry because you were there in time to look after him/her, to satisfy her/his needs. Being there means building TRUST.

So, instead of spoiling her/him, you just simply build the most important element of your relationship, you build trust and this is extremely far from spoling him/her.

Once you have built trust, you don’t have to be worried about spoiling her/him anymore. Your baby will understand if s/he can’t get or do something. You just need to explain, and s/he will accept your decision. This is just that easy.